Let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and ‘no’ be ‘no.’

For such a long time, my character has always been that of an extremely cautious and kind person. There is nothing wrong with that, but there has to be a balance. I’ve always been someone who is extremely careful not to offend anyone with my words and at times, I haven’t been firm with my answers. While it is good to measure your words to not offend, the truth is, it is inevitable to offend no matter what you do. I think many Christians today believe that being kind, means saying “yes” to everything people ask or say. While on the contrary, Jesus doesn’t want us to be that way. He wants us to be salt. He wants us to be steadfast and unshakable. He wants us to be firm on the rock. He wants us to not be double-minded. Shall I go on?

I’ve learned so much in this season and God continues to chisel my character. And the way I know this, is due to the countless opportunities I’ve had where my flesh wants to say ‘yes,’ but instead I listened to God and said, ‘no.’ There truly is a blessing in disguise when you’re firm in your answers and you don’t beat around the bush. Take for instance yesterday, I purchased something at a store and the cashier asked me if I had an in-store credit card. I automatically said no and proceeded to take out my card to pay. She looked at me, asked me another question, and I kindly said, “I don’t want to open one, thank you.” Before, I guarantee you, I would have answered all of her questions and considered the “discounts” and all the gimmicks, and finally said ‘no.’ This my friends is what I call, character development. Even in the smallest things, we need to learn how to have a straight firm forward answer. Not only will it save us time, it will save us from future headaches. Can I get an amen?

Below are some reasons why having a firm loving character can really produce good fruit in your life.

#1  You don’t waste time. Believe it or not, if you’re firm with your answers. You won’t have to repeat yourself. It’s that simple and people will simply have to understand your conviction. For example, if someone comes up to you with a different doctrine that does not preach Jesus Christ, you must remain firm on your faith. It’s good practice. “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.” 1 Corinth 16:13 and “Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock.” Matthew 7:24 

#2  You’re secure in your identity. “Truly, truly, I say to you, before Abraham was, I am.”- John 8:59. When the Pharisees heard Jesus speak in this manner, they were offended. With good reason, He was declaring Himself God. You see, Jesus knew his identity and He was not about to compromise the truth in order to get these men to follow Him. So many times we compromise our decisions, just to please people. Jesus was our prime example of having a firm identity. Our identity is in Christ Jesus. You know who you are and because of that, you can get yourself out of unwanted situations. The door of escape is always there.

#3  You establish healthy boundaries. Having a firm character allows you to love God above all, love yourself, and love your neighbor. It’s all tied together. When we stop pleasing man, we gain authority in Christ. We serve people, but we’re not called to be slaves nor to be intimidated by their faces. Galatians 1:10 says, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

#4  You prevent future problems. Many times in my life, I’ve been quick to answer and I haven’t taken the time to process the possible outcomes. Thankfully, God has worked everything out for my good, even my hasty decisions. And while God’s grace is sufficient to help you endure any future problem, why not prevent them before they happen, by making wiser choices. “Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God.” – Ecclesiastes 5:2 

#5  You’re respected. You’ve probably been around someone who always commits to something, says they will show up, but never does. That unfortunately builds a bad reputation and people will no longer believe or listen to what you say. Hopefully that isn’t you, but if it is, today you’re going to turn that around for good. The reality is, if you’re someone who has firm character, people will respect you whether they like you or not. They know your word is accountable and true. 1 John 3:18 – “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Grace and peace!

Tares be gone?

Most of our lives, we spend it protecting ourselves and building impenetrable walls. And for good reason, we’re not always surrounded by people that want or have the best intentions for us. However, here is what I’ve come to understand about what Jesus intends for us to learn when we’re surrounded by such people. He doesn’t want us to build walls or pray that they go away, He has a much bigger goal to accomplish in you my friend. Today, I would like to introduce to you to those tares, which will indeed be a necessary ingredient with your walk with God.

Now biblically speaking, in the parables of the tares, in Matthew 13:24-30…Jesus distinctly refers to tares as sons of disobedience, in other words, people who are not followers of Christ. But I’ve also come to understand that in life, there will also be people like tares (disobedient Christians), who look like wheat, act like wheat, but are double-minded and will be tossed like the waves. In my personal experience, I’ve learned to identify Christians who are tares. Not saying they’re bad people, but they’re people who do exactly what tares know to do – absorb you and distract you. Okay, so what do we do about it and what does God say about this? In the parable we see how the workers of the field were worried and asked if they should gather the weed up. The owner of the field is very wise to tell them to wait until the harvest is ready, and not uproot the weed or else the wheat will also perish. The day of judgement will be that day of separation. But until now, we have to learn to live in the world and not be of it. The same goes with the people we surround ourselves. Jesus wants us to learn to walk alongside people who are like tares, but He wants us to be wise in how we relate to them. Tares and wheat grow together, but wheat bears fruit, tares are always (spiritually) dry. What we need to be careful with is making sure that we create healthy boundaries and do not allow these people to dry us up spiritually.

I used to believe that praying for the tares to go away would solve all  of my problems, but instead, the Lord highlighted to me that the tares in my life will always exist. Tares of all types and sizes will appear in my field, and in different seasons. People will come and people will go, and I will have to learn how to navigate this life with them in my field. I have to accept that some people will never change, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t or that I will let them influence me. I also learned that I have a godly responsibility in creating clear boundaries and let my ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and my ‘no’ be ‘no.’ This is how we create healthy boundaries and form our  godly character. Be imitators of Christ.

If you recall, Jesus chose His 12 disciples, but yet there was a tare with Him all along – ladies and gentlemen, his name was none other than Judas. It was necessary to have this tare alongside Him. Jesus demonstrated what it is like to walk alongside people who don’t have the best intentions for you. Satan will always attack you, either through people or through circumstances, but we need to remember that the fiery darts will always be launched, but they won’t ever prosper. God Himself will make sure you are not destroyed. Today, I encourage you to observe the tares that are around your life and ask God to give you the discernment on how to interact with people who are tares. Ask God to help you endure the process, to form your character, and to help you understand what God wants to do in your life and in theirs. Lastly, ask God to remove them from your life in His perfect timing. Next time you see a tare near you, don’t be quick to remove it, let God remove it for you when the harvest is ready and you’ve matured in character.

God bless you!

 

Resist the devil and he will flee

One of the strongest attacks from the enemy (also known as Satan) is the constant condemnation and accusation he brings to  your life. Whether you’re a Christian or not, Satan doesn’t discriminate, he’s always ready to accuse you. Thankfully there is a way to stop these thoughts. Jesus has set us free through the redemption of His perfect sacrifice on the cross. Due to this, we now have the power through Jesus to cover ourselves with His precious blood. “Now there is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who not not after the flesh, but according to the Spirit.” – Romans 8:1

There is a grave danger when we allow ourselves to dwell in the past, our uncertain future, or on what could have been. These are tactics the enemy uses to ensure that you don’t move forward. The devil gets a foothold if we give it to him. Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated nor taunted by the devil. Propose it to yourself to not allow Satan to play with your emotions, you’re not his puppet. I believe that part of the reason why we allow these thoughts of condemnation to filter through our mind and spirit, is the lack of self-dominion. We do not know how to stop these thoughts and we entertain them. We have the Holy Spirit talking to us, but instead, we choose to ignore that still small voice. So how do we choose to stop these thoughts? Below are a few tips on how to do this effectively.

#1 Remember that you’re in control. God’s word says, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and sound mind.” – 2 Tim 1:7.  This means you have the fruits of the Holy Spirit and one of those fruits is self-control. Believe that you are equipped to stop those fiery darts with the shield of faith. You can lift that shield and cover your mind with the word of God. This will counter those lying words.

#2 You have been set free. The word of God says that “Whom the Son sets free is free indeed.” – John 8:36. You’ve been forgiven, redeemed, and purchased at a price. Nothing that you did in the past is unforgivable, Jesus already paid the price for your sins. Your past is “finished” and so are you sins. You’re no longer a slave to sin, but a slave to Christ. Proverbs 28:13 says, “Whoever conceals their sin does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” That word gives me a lot of hope. To know that if you’ve sincerely repented to God about what you’ve done…mercy is sure to follow. God’s mercy is indeed new every morning. Let your soul and your mind rest in the Spirit of the Lord. Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom!

#3 Look ahead. The greatest weapon you have against the enemy is the present and the plans that God has for you. While we shouldn’t boast about tomorrow, God is the one who decides where we go, if we do this and that. Those days are filled with hope and desire…days of prosperity. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'” Don’t look behind, the past is considered garbage, whether good or bad, you’ve gained Christ now. Have hope in your heart that all will be well and God does not remember your sin. He’s that kind and generous. His desire for you is to move forward in Him, remain in Him, and He will make His home in you.

God bless.

Being prudent will preserve your life

Pause. Pausing is perhaps the best and wisest thing to do as a Christian when being prudent. There is wisdom behind this action, being a prudent Christian can actually save your life. You’re probably thinking I’m exaggerating, but in this article I want you to consider the benefits of becoming a prudent person and why it is important. If you recall, God’s word says that every idle word will be judged. “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.” – Matthew 12:36. If that doesn’t scare you, then I don’t know what will. There is an incredible benefit that comes with the art of being prudent – you keep your soul out of trouble and you guard the hearts of others too.

Below are a few tips to consider:

#1. Measure your words. Before you speak, allow the Lord to minister to you about the situation or circumstance. Every word you utter matters, it can literally light up a forest and cause unnecessary offense, or spread offense among the body of Christ. Always question yourself, is it necessary to say this and will it edify or tear down? Sometimes words can be excessive and where there is a multitude of words, sin can abound. Proverbs 10:19 – “Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues.” However, if the situation calls for it and the Lord has given you permission to counsel someone, by all means do it, but with precaution. Proverbs 10:11 – “The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life.” 

#2. Discretion keeps you. We’ve all made mistakes in the past. Perhaps you’ve divulged information about someone you shouldn’t have. Or perhaps you were put in a precarious situation where you didn’t know how to act or what to say, but instead you opted to sharing it with someone. Whatever your situation, it’s important to note that discretion will always preserve your integrity and you automatically exempt yourself from ensnaring yourself into a trap the enemy has for you. The enemy is very astute in this area, he will brew a set of circumstances to make you stumble. The prudent person foresees this and carefully analyzes the possible outcomes and consequences of opening their mouths or entertaining gossip. Proverbs 2:11 – Discretion will watch over you, and understanding will guard you, 12to deliver you from the way of evil, from the man who speaks perversity.”

#3. You avoid unnecessary “frenemies.” There is nothing worse than to get new “frenemies” because of your lack of discretion. People will distance themselves from you when they see you like to divulge the private conversations you’ve had with other brothers and sisters in Christ. Or if you decide to share your unedifying thoughts to someone because you are impulsive. Being impulsive and led by the flesh gives you the  perfect recipe for a new “frenemie.” Notice how I said, “frenemies,” because that’s exactly what happens within the body of Christ. You become a hypocrite to that brother or sister in Christ because of your lack of forgiveness and lack of addressing the person in private. Distancing yourself from a brother or sister in Christ does not solve the problem, it only makes it worse. Omitting an offense to someone and allowing it to grow a root of bitterness is also a sin. This is why the Lord says, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.”-Matthew 18:15. Brothers and sisters – be wise. When you’re discreet you avoid creating new problems with people. Not all Christians are equal. Not every Christian is spiritually mature enough to understand or have compassion about your concern; not every Christian cares about your problems, and not every Christian will be discreet. Be wise with whom you speak to. If the Holy Spirit has not allowed you to be fully open with someone, then learn to listen to instructions.

#4. When you’re prudent, you choose your battles. Not every battle is meant to be fought. Some people will speak ill about you and it will reach your ears. Whether it is criticism, false witnessing, or hate speech, you will need to exercise self-control. Some things are meant to be confronted and other times, you will have to let the Lord fight your battles. Some battles are simply meant to be ignored. Your soul will be more at peace when you let the Lord take revenge and not you. His justice is perfect and righteous. “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.” – Isaiah 54:17

God bless you brethren and remember this verse whenever you’re about to open your mouth… Matthew 10:16 – “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves. Be ye therefore wise as serpents and harmless as doves.”

 

The processing matters more than the promotion.

   In the church today, we have many Christians who desire position and recognition, but many don’t have the maturity to sustain such calling. Having a high regarded position and sustaining it are two different things. When God calls us to do something great, He will first make sure that you’re put through the fire, to test the authenticity of our faith.  If you recall in the story of the young shepherd boy David, before he actually became king of Israel, he was heavily persecuted by king Saul. David had to defeat many giants before he sat on the throne. If you’ve been called to a great position in ministry, prepare to endure the cost of it.  The good news is that if God called you to it, He will bring you through it.

So why is going through “the process” before receiving a position so important? Like anything in this life, we must first be tested with small things to see if we can handle the big things. If we don’t go through the process, we will not have the grace to maintain what God has entrusted us with. Below are three key points why you must go through the process to see the glory of God manifested in that calling or promise.

#1 Your motives are tested and so is your character. Jesus prays for you and wants you to stand firm throughout the process. God would rather permit trials in your life, than to see you remain lukewarm or stagnant in an area of your life that was never worked or tested. If you succeed against all temptations, you will also strengthen your  brothers and sisters in Christ to be faithful to God. Luke 22:32 says, “But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.”

#2 Embrace the challenges. God does not give anyone something so delicate like a kingdom to someone, if He knows they don’t have the courage to face challenges head on or defeat temptations. Behind every giant there is a great blessing, but behind every challenge, there is another giant already lined up. If you allow yourself to be processed, God will help you defeat that Goliath. This Goliath could represent your ministry, criticism, hate, envy, gossip, strongholds, fear, or persecution . Whatever the giant, God has equipped you to fight it. 1 Samuel 17:40 says, “Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine.”

#3 God’s anointing qualifies you, but the process prepares you. God can anoint you to fulfill a task or a promise, but this does not mean the promotion will be immediate. It is much better that you are processed than to be thrown into the fire without preparation or covering from the Lord. Many people confuse the anointing with immediate promotion. Just because you’re not there yet, does not mean the promise has not been fulfilled. The anointing gives you the grace to sustain the position and the burden that comes with what God has assigned you to do.  Isaiah 4:3 – “A voice of one calling: “In the wilderness prepare the way for the LORD; make straight in the desert a highway for our God.”

Today, I tell you the truth. If you’re more concerned about what God has said, rather than what God is doing in you, you will miss out on the blessing. Remain focused on the things at hand, what has God entrusted you with now. Perhaps it may seem small and insignificant in your eyes, but sometimes it those very tasks that will bring you great glory and destiny. “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin,” says the Lord. I leave you with this verse, “From everyone to whom much has been given, much will be required; and from the one to whom much has been entrusted, even more will be demanded”- Luke 12:48.

Let God do the processing in you and you will be thankful when you see the maturity you’ve gained to sustain the position. God bless!

 

Social media and the age of idolatry

We’re living in a time where idolatry is subconsciously socially acceptable by the double tapping of a thumb. We’re no longer concerned about our own lives, but we vicariously live out our lives through the Instagram feed of others. For some, it’s just a pass time, for others it’s an indirect way of “keeping up” with the life of someone, and for the majority of us, it has become a place of constant comparison. Brothers and sisters in Christ, let’s be honest, how many times have you’ve scrolled up and down a stream of IG pictures or videos and compared yourself, or possibly even coveted? Whether you admit it or not, did it consciously or subconsciously, the fact is – we’ve all done it. There is a serious consequence to idolatry and the Lord definitely doesn’t approve of it, simply because it only expresses the “ingratitude” we feel about our own lives and our own journey.

Thankfully we have a merciful God that is patient, kind, and slow to anger. As followers of Christ Jesus, we must always remember what he said to us regarding idolatry, “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money,” Matthew 6:24. We cannot constantly worry about our inadequacies, our failures or shortcomings, the truth is… God is sufficient and your life is in His hands. We can easily be ensnared by idolatry, simply by just scrolling through social media. In an age of constant information and easy access to it, we need to learn how to stop the buck when it gets out of hand. I highly believe that Satan will use social media and pervert what was intended for good and use it to his advantage. The good news is that we have the authority in Christ to have dominion over what we allow to dwell in our spirit and in our thoughts.

How do we have dominion over our thoughts and prevent it from becoming thoughts of vain imaginations and idolatry? After all, thoughts are likely as fast as the speed of light, can we really stop them? While those thoughts may be coming at you like fiery darts, you have the ability to hold every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, even after it has passed through. You don’t have to agree with it, nor accept it as your own. Simply discard it, repent, and give it to God.

You’re probably thinking, but how do I know if a thought is idolatrous? Well, let’s first identify what is idolatry? Idolatry isn’t just having deep adoration for something, the true essence of idolatry for God is to replace that “thing” or “person” over God (Read Exodus 20:3-5). The depth of idolatry can creep in like a little fox that comes in to ruin the vineyard, it only takes one thought of comparison or ungratefulness, to literally covet. Colossians 3:5 describes what idolatry is, “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience.” Before Christ, we were disobedient and likely ignorant to Satan’s devices. Today, I encourage you to evaluate your thoughts and determine whether they are idolatrous. Do not let those thoughts overrule you, define you, or create something in you that is displeasing to the Lord. After all, we have a responsibility to control and monitor what we think. Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

So how do I know if a desire or a thought is idolatrous? A good rule of thumb is to always use the filter of the Holy Spirit. When a thought comes through, ask yourself – is this true, is it noble, is it right, is it pure, is it lovely and admirable? If you cannot answer this with sincerity, something is off. If you take a look at the story of Hannah in the book of Samuel, you can see how Hannah desired deeply to be a mother, but was barren. Peninnah, the second wife of Elkanah, was a very bitter woman. She had the ability to bear children for Elkanah, but the idea that Elkanah loved Hannah more, consumed her. She did everything in her power to make Hannah feel miserable for not bearing children. Peninnah’s idol was her husband. Hannah didn’t want children to supersede Peninnah, nor to gain more value in the sight of her husband – she simply yearned to be a mother. Hannah understood the importance of depending on God for her needs and not allowing a deep desire to become more important than the presence of God. She did what any devoted person to God would do, she put it in prayer and vowed to give this son, if granted, back to God. It takes a strong woman to be able to let go of what you so deeply yearn to have. That’s a good sign that the gift did not become an idol for her, her first love was God. Later we see how the Lord not only answered her prayer, but gave her more than what she asked for. 1 Samuel 2:21 says, ” And the LORD visited Hannah, so that she conceived and bore three sons and two daughters.”

What is the ultimate lesson? We must always depend on God and thank Him for what He has already given us. As social media takes on different forms and evolves, we must make sure that we’re transformed by the renewal of our minds. Hope this blesses you and ministers to your life. God bless.

 

 

When did modesty become unpopular among Christian women?

 

Let’s be real here, the topic of modesty is not a “hot” topic, it’s more like a taboo conversation. So much so, that if you speak about modesty, you’re considered either “old fashioned and religious” or “judgmental.” In today’s culture, women are taught that modesty is an impediment to being “empowered” and doing what you want. When I first came to Christ, I remember modesty being so far from my radar, the concept was literally foreign to me. No one actually ever explained it or preached about it at church. The secular world taught me that the pursuit of “sexiness” was alluring, attractive, and accepted. Fortunately for me, the Holy Spirit took over and taught me overtime, and I listened. It is a continuous process and continual self-examination.

The pursuit of modesty is indeed an essential virtue all Christian women should desire and it is biblical. But the reality is… while our society puts “modesty” as something shameful to pursue, it’s actually something God sees as precious. As time progresses, our culture evolves into a more lascivious society that celebrates perversion and narcissism (lovers of themselves). We’re in the business of excessive selfies and constant self exaltation. As Christians, both men and women cannot be ignorant to Satans devices and how he uses this Jezebel spirit to infiltrate the church. We need to have a clear understanding and discernment as to what is modest and what is not. You may say, “Well, there is no clear black and white.” That is true, the Bible doesn’t manually draw it out for us, but it does it spell it out. As Christians, we need to definitely understand what is acceptable to God and what is not. Modesty is indeed a matter of the heart.

When we concern ourselves with the way we represent Jesus, we realize that everything, from what comes out of our mouths to what is expressed in our outward appearance matters. Yes, God sees what is in the heart, but what is in the heart comes out through our actions. If your heart is full of sensual thoughts and attention seeking, you will portray that very character. We cannot be oblivious or choose to ignore the facts. We’re living in a time where Christian women and worldly women are not distinguishable. Dare I say that other women from other religions understand this concept better than Christian women? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we now need to dress like nuns, but we do have to have a level of conservatism…where we not only represent Jesus correctly, but we honor Him as our husband who covers us.

So why does this matter? It matters because if we’re to call ourselves disciples of Christ, then modesty is not irrelevant in the church community. The pressure for women or girls to take “selfies” and be expressive with their sexuality is applauded in this culture. The flesh wants what it wants and people will go to any lengths to defend what God clearly does not approve of. What can we do to put the breaks on this Jezebel spirit that is infiltrating the church? Below are a few points as to why we should see this as a matter that concerns us.

#1 Modesty and discretion keep you. Modesty protects your intimacy. God desires that you walk in holiness and not in exposure. Song of Solomon 2:7 says, “Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and wild deer, not to awaken love until the time is right.” (This is a call for Christians to be wise and discreet. Basically it is saying not to awaken sexual arousal until you are married, not to the public). Proverbs 2:11 says, “Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.” If we are wise to protect ourselves and be discreet with our dressing and actions, our hearts will be guarded and so will our minds.

#2 Your virtue brings glory to Jesus. When we as Christians (both men and women) concern ourselves with what we say, desire, act, and dress, we bring glory to God’s name. Our goal is not to bring attention to ourselves and to cause others to lust after us, or for us to lust after others. You may say to yourself, “But that’s not my intent.” Perhaps it isn’t, but like Jeremiah 17:9 says, The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” God calls us to have discernment and for us to examine ourselves. Always ask yourself, what am I portraying and what message am I conveying? I always ask myself…would Mary the mother of Jesus post a selfie looking like this? If your answer is no, then you’re headed the right way. Matthew 5:28 says, “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Let me be clear, this goes for both men and women. We cannot be a stumbling block to each other. If Job had to do a covenant with his eyes, so do we. This means not only are we responsible to keep our eyes on Jesus, but we are also responsible in not causing others to lust after us. Job 31:1 – “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” I encourage you to make a covenant with your eyes as well, both single and married Christians. Glorify God in everything you do. 1 Corinth 10:31

#3 When you’re modest, you close the door to the Jezebel spirit. The Jezebel spirit affects both men and women. The Jezebel spirit loves to bask in the satisfaction of “attention seeking.” It attacks women to portray themselves as sensual and it attacks men to seek “power” and “show off.” It’s a serious problem that we too often ignore and accept in the church. If you want your future spouse to respect you and honor you, begin now. If you want to honor your wife or husband, protect yourself from unwanted attention and respect your spouse.

#4 Modesty sets you apart. Whether it matters to you or not, the reality is, God calls us to be set apart from the world. To look different, act different, and be the salt of the Earth. If our God is Holy, He asks us to be holy too. Holy in our nature, the way we dress and carry ourselves. Modesty demonstrates that we are concerned about the things of God, rather than ourselves. We glorify God with our bodies. We don’t show the world what belongs to God. Our sexuality belongs to God and our bodies belong to God. When we dress modest, our character shines and not our outward appearance. Notice how 1 Peter 3:3-4 is not prohibiting us to dress beautifully, but instead it admonishes women to examine their motives and the focus of the attention. Are we exposing too much is a question we should always ask ourselves. It’s our virtuous character that God sees. Our character encompasses the way we dress and carry ourselves. Modesty allows relationship, it allows distractions to be removed from your personality. “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”- 1 Peter 3:3-4

The bottomline, we are what we dress, eat, think, and act. If we are to be distinguished from the world, we’re to have higher standards than those around us. We have the standard that God has set before us. Whether we choose to agree with it or not, it is the Holy Spirit that will convict us of our rebellion. We definitely have a lot more to offer than just good looks, sex appeal, and self-attention. We can’t just wear anything we want, nor act any way we want. We don’t show everyone what we think is worth looking at because our flesh says so. We are guided by the Spirit of God, we protect our hearts, our minds, and we give glory to God with our bodies by simply covering up what is most precious to God. Hope this ministers to you. God bless!

Like a famous fashion designer once said, “Modesty is the highest elegance.” – Coco Chanel.