There comes a moment in your adult life where you realize there is no more time to wander and wonder about whether a person is interested in you or not. Too many times in the body of Christ I see sisters wasting precious time waiting for the wrong person to finally make a move or to court them. This is where trusting in the Lord comes into play. What should a woman do if she is interested in someone, but yet this person does not do anything, or perhaps may not even be interested altogether. Here are some tips and guidance.
Tip # 1 Stop wondering – Wondering whether that is your husband or not will not help the cause, it will only deter you from seeing other potential candidates God has placed around you. Can God match hearts? Yes, he can. However, too many times we can get caught up just focused on one person only, believing that is the one, and we completely disqualify any other godly man. Wondering can cause frustration, disappointment, resentment, and even idolatry. Wondering says, “I don’t know my value.” How so, you may ask. If you’re wondering if that person will ever pursue you, you’ve already lowered your self-worth, he should be seeking you, not the other way around. Men are like hunters, if they know what they want, they don’t waste time.
Tip # 2 Stop wandering – Okay, it sounds simple but this is very biblical; women don’t wander to different places or stay in a specific spot just to attract the godly man they want. If God calls you to another church or specific ministry, go and do not resist because of your own desires towards wanting a specific man. The same is for leaving to another church or simply going on mission trips to “find” your husband. Take a look at Rebecca’s example, she was busy doing her work and God brought Isaac to her. Isaac was led to her by God and Isaac was already praying and asking for confirmations. Genesis 24:14 – “May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’–let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac.” Incredible right
Tip # 3 Trust in the Lord – The moment you are in now is the exact place where you need to be. It doesn’t matter what you do, the results will be the same because God is sovereign and His plan for your life won’t alter. You have the free will to make choices, but ultimately God allows it. Trust that God will bring your husband and give Him your concerns. Two verses you should keep in mind: Philippians 4:19 “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus,” and Psalm 138:8 “ The Lord will perfect that which concerns me; Your mercy, O Lord, endures forever.” This is important to remember, God knows your desires and He will fulfill them in His time. The word of God says everything is beautiful in its time and this moment is the moment you need to be present in. The heart is deceitful above all and leaning on God is better than leaning on your own understanding. You can find a million reasons why he has not pursued yet, but why do that to yourself? Are you not worthy of being pursued?Do not concern yourself about tomorrow and if “he” will ever make that move. Instead, focus on what you can do for the Kingdom of God and move forward in your heart, literally. Your heart right now only belongs to your heavenly husband. You only have one life and one opportunity to build your eternal riches in Heaven.
To recap, women of God, you are like a treasure that has been found. Let yourself be found and pursued. There is no time to waste, but the time you’ve already wasted wondering, redeem it by trusting in God. The more you preoccupy yourself with those thoughts, the more restless you become. Be still and rest, for you are of value and your Kingdom husband will arrive.